Shire Wedding

Father of the Bride


As the father of the bride it is important to sit down with your daughter as soon as possible after she has announced her intention to marry. There are traditionally 5 main duties attached to your role as father of the bride these are outlined below. It is essential that you discuss these with your daughter so that she is aware of what you are willing to offer but also to let her know that you are approachable and will not be offended if she chooses not to be traditional. Be aware that many couples are choosing not to be traditional nowadays, this is nothing personal just a changing of the times. Let her know that you are happy to go along with whatever she chooses, she will need your support in these matters especially if her mother does not agree with her choices. We have listed the traditional duties below and have also put together a check list together with some advice for the speech.

The father of the bride traditionally has the following duties:

In the majority of cases the father of the bride will be expected to wear a specific suit. These are usually hired from a menswear specialist and will require you to get measured up before the wedding to ensure that you have the correct size. It is also a good idea to check whether the suit comes with shoes as many hire shops do not rent shoes out with their suits any more. If you need to supply your own shoes for the event you will need to make sure they are smart, clean and polished.

The Speech

Check list

Your speech should be fairly short but personal and in your own style. By all means search the net and get ideas, but try not to copy anything directly (if you do be sure to amend the names). If you prefer to pad it out a bit from just the essentials listed above, you could add another story about your daughter growing up. It is also quite traditional to add in some advice to the couple for their future together. This can be funny, serious or even a quote from a poem etc.. Bride with angel wingsWhatever you do if you are divorced or in a difficult marriage be very careful not to lower the tone. Remember this is your daughters happy day!

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