The Wedding Speeches
Traditionally the wedding speeches are given after the wedding breakfast. The begin with the father of the bride, then the groom and finally the bestman. Some couples choose to do away with tradition and haven the speeches before the meal, some even mix up the order. It is your wedding day so it is up to you whether you decide to stick with the tradition or put your own spin on it.
We have put together a few essentials for each of the speeches to help the writers ensure that they do not forget to include anything. It is a good idea to buy yourself some note cards to either write the whole speech on or to give yourself prompts.
The Father of the Bride's Speech
- Start with a positive comment about the day - ie the weather, venue or food.
- Thank anyone who has contributed to the wedding and any guests who have put a lot of effort into bein there.
- Welcome the groom to the family
- Let your daughter know your proud of her then follow up with a funny childhood story.
- Wish the couple luck and give any marital advice that you may have.
- Toast the happy couple
- Hand over to the groom
The Groom's Speech
- Thank the father of the bride for the speech and handover.
- Compliment the bride and tell a story about you relationship - ie how you met or some other interesting facts.
- Thank the in laws for bringing up their daughter well or something similar.
- Thank your own parents.
- Thank a few other people who may have contributed to the wedding or similar.
- Talk about your bride - ie why you love her.
- Thank, compliment and toast the bridesmaids.
- Hand over to the bestman
The Bestman's Speech
- Thank the groom for the hand over and introduce yourself.
- Thank the groom for his comments about the bridesmaids.
- Tell any amusing stories that you have collated about the groom.
- Say something nice about the bride.
- Comment on their relationship - ie how good they are together or how he has changed.
- Say something nice about the groom.
- Read comments from those who can't be there
- Toast the couple and tell the guests what happens next.
The important thing to remember is to make the speech your own. It is much easier to give a speech in your own style that you have written yourself than it is to read something that someone else has written. Try to speak clearly, do not rush and make sure you look up at the guests at least a few times during the speech.
Nowadays more and more brides and bridesmaids are choosing to make speeches. In this instance they can choose when they would like to fit into the order. It usually works quite well for them to go between the groom and the bestman, but it is completely up to you.